As a clinical social work psychotherapist, I am often asked a number of very understandable and meaningful questions by clients: “How exactly do people change?” “How will I know when I am really different?” Questions like these often provide an excellent opportunity to clarify the objectives of the treatment. This will help both clinician and client keep a sharp eye on the process so that the goal of eventual change is not lost.

People, who are generally considered successful, both personally and professionally, appear to possess a number of qualities in common. The following is a list of those qualities, designed for your self-appraisal.

“I meant to call you, but I didn’t have time!” “I absolutely cannot afford a gym membership or a personal trainer!” “I’m not sure I have enough money to raise a child in New York City.” “There is nothing I could have done about it!” “No way can I find the time for lunch.”

… A wealth of new research has helped scientists determine what qualities lead to a lasting marriage or a divorce. For instance, research shows even as small a gesture as eye-rolling after a spouse’s comment can be a strong predictor for divorce, while marriages with traditional gender roles often are highly successful.